If men could menstruate , they would brag about how long and how much, says American feminist Gloria Steinem. In many places women are still untouchable during those phases. Most unfortunately, centuries old male domination have not allowed the complete women power to flourish in our society. But if you consider this subcontinent , be it Vietnam, Bangladesh ,Pakistan, Srilanka or even Israel besides India , women have shown great ability of leadership. Perhaps that’s why men are still skeptical and may go all out to scuttle the move to have 30% reservation for women in the Parliament. I attended the MMA Women Managers’ Convention last Saturday and came up with two startling observations. In any event of flooding , I understand women casualty is higher than men casualty because women are usually not encouraged to learn swimming in our country (barring a very few). I also understand , during the tsunami, a shore side temple was totally engulfed killing all the women devotees while the men could escape. This is so because women could not run fast enough wearing sarees! In this southern part of the country I find many of my women colleagues take their annual leave just to visit temples or go on pilgrimages. Fair enough , but aren’t we trying to condition their mind not to look beyond ? We are conditioning them to some virtues that we men ourselves seldom practice. Still we find it difficult to see our daughters playing soccer or cricket- power games I mean.We are comfortable pushing our daughters to playing with dolls or kitchen sets.Recently I mailed a funny cartoon to a friend depicting women drivers , a subject we males talk about quite a bit. She promptly wrote back, you MCPs (She knows at least I am not one) , why is it that most of the accidents involve only male drivers !
So , I feel our male dominated conditioning process of the women right from their childhood is more dangerous than female infanticides. All the feminists must therefore think beyond “Pink Chaddi” or “Bar Bharao” movement.




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Follow-up comment rss or Leave a TrackbackYeah and we condition our sons also similarly
both are bad
Sorry Asit, you got it wrong.
The most amount of crime against women is committed by women. Iam not just referring to motherinlaw daughterinlaw syndrome but henious crimes itself.
One of the problems is that women are unable to group together and become an effective force. Are there women political groups, women lobbies, etc etc.
Its not enough to have the Arundatti’s and Medha Patkhar’s basking in 5 star rallies.
Women have to educate themselves and assert their rights. Unfortunately they get bogged down to personal individual issues. Some of them become card carrying varieties (so called feminists). This feminist fad is all about their saratorial preferences or other personal habits.
How many feminist women will go to slums and educate the slum dwellers? Will they provide homes and support to deserted women? Finally the trafikking of women is a monopoly of women (read Madams).
hi asit ji
i do agree with you but not with vinay
its not that women are womens’ enemy
but how many women are being brought up on the same terms as their male counterparts
how many men like their wives playing the same role in any kind of decision making
are not men feel insecure when thier working wives earn more than them and end up showing thier fwwling in abusing them.
any how these are my views
i am a female state level swimmer. my roots are from village.And women there are looked down upon or even called mad if she swims or climbs trees.basically atheletic activities of teenage females are not very normal and i myself was told to “sharam karo” for that!!
i am not asking for inclusion of women in all army ranks.but at least basic physical activities like running and swimming or riding 2 wheelers shouldn’t be looked down upon,rather encouraged for women. but sadly thats not going to happen easily in India.
err wearing a saree during swimming can bring ones death so much quicker!
..contd
even one aunty who is a heart patient and is advised to lose her weight by doctors,choose to walk briskly wearing her canvas shoes at night in the dark! most girls feel(they are conditioned to) extremely shy to perform athletic or even life-saving physical activities.
–let alone feminist liberation..heh..women are not even allowed to save their lives.
Hello Sir,
Awesome piece of work..
Whatever you wrote is 200% correct.But Theres one question to Mr.Vinay.
Why dont you just take care of the household things and let your wife take care of her proffessional life..it is very easy to post a comment talking about feminist as per his description the card holders..Education is really important.And talking about and writing like this is quite easy too.But as it is said that Charity starts from home so is any change in the society.If you want to change the society,change yourself.Make your daughters,wife,sister strong enough to fight the ruthless world..Writing like this and pointing fingers to one another is no solution for anything.Start from small and that is from your home.Treat,educate women the way like men.
And study wise also it is prooved that women are better managers.Moreover Asit Sir mentioned that despite everyone commenting and gossiping about women drivers ,most of the accidents are caused by men drivers.Which is soo very true.So the only thing which everyone needs to learn is to respect women and treat them as equals and if some women fights for their rights and believe they can also be in coordination with men,please dont call them as femists..and i guess these “Pink chaddi” and “Bar Bharao” movements are all political sagas…..
Hi Vaishali,
You have got me wrong. You have presumed that Iam some sort of a MCP… (I dont want to elaborate further). As a matter of fact I do take care of the house. My wife and children love my cooking. You can speak to my daughter and wife and they will vouch for me. Now my daughter who lives in US misses my cooking and most of her calls are asking for recipes and tips.
When my wife was undergoing chemo for cancer treatment I was fully supportive. Now I have helped her to set up her boutique and accomodated her timings as well as preparation of meals and all that.
I have faced a serious personal problems from so called emancipated women as well as seen my sister live an abused domestic life and die in distress due to a callous, uncouth and tyranical husband.
It is for women themselves to rise above male domination. This can happen only by education and awareness. Even in men if a man is not strong he will get dominated by others. This is an universal phenomenon.
Mr.Vinay..
Plz dont take my views to your heart.
Its really nice to hear that your recipies are soo famous among your family members.
You are correct while talking about the domination issue…
I guess this point is quite valid and it is very important for a human being to be really strong so that he/she can survive well in the society…
I am of your daughters age so plz dont mind any of my views.They are not personal at all…
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